Want My Partner To Want A Baby Too – Feminine Wisdom

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Want My Partner To Want A Baby Too  

Is "I want my partner to want a baby too" a part of your fertility journey? Tough one. Especially if you want to have a baby after 40.

The partner in question could, of course, be male or female. But interestingly enough, in my online search, I discovered that 'how to convince him to have a baby' and 'how to tell him I want a baby' were more common than 'how to convince her I want a baby'.  Although the latter does happen for sure. And probably a lot more often that we think.

Here I would like to explore the topic of "I want my partner to want a baby too" with a splash of feminine wisdom. My intention is that it will support you as a woman, partner and mother in delicious, long-lasting ways! Inspiration for the audio and article below came from the following share:

I want my partner to want a baby too Deirdre."

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Patriarchal Patterns

And this beautiful woman went on to say that if he wanted a baby too then she would know that he really loves her. So here are my thoughts on this:

In patriarchy, the download has been that having a baby is the ultimate expression of love between a man and a woman. The creative climax. And while having a baby may well be beautiful and gorgeous, a quantum expression of love and creativity is not in any way limited to that.

A few things come up for me when I read this. The main one being that you are really feeling the need to know that this man loves you. I am wondering if this is a pattern for you? Being in relationship and doubting that you are loved in it or not feeling loved. If it is, your feminine wisdom is inviting you transform that now. And you can!

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Feminine Wisdom

Your feminine wisdom is inviting you to discover how you can feel loved in this relationship first. And I would like to introduce you to something that has really helped me in this regard. That is 'The Five Languages of Love'. In that book, Gary Chapman explains that there are five languages of love and that each of us has a dominant love language.

Our dominant love language refers to the primary way in which we express and receive love. The five languages are as follows:

  • Touch. I express my love by touching you. I feel loved by you when you touch me.
  • Gifts. I express my love by buying or making gifts for you. I feel loved by you when you present me with gifts.
  • Acts of Service. I express my love by doing something for you. I feel loved by you when you do something for me.
  • Quality Time. I express my love by spending quality time with you. I feel loved by you when you spend meaningful time with me.
  • Words of Affirmation. I express my love by saying positive things to you. I feel loved by you when you say nice things to me.

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5 Langauges of Love

More often than not, however, we are in relationship (especially our intimate relationships), with people who have a different love language to us!

How does that play out? Well, one person will be expressing love in their dominant love language. Gifts for example. And wanting to receive the same. While the second person will be showing love in another way e.g. words of affirmation. And hoping for the same back. This, as you have probably experienced, can result in what seems to be a mismatch.

Because the love that one person is giving does not fill the love tank of the partner. And visa versa. So, even though you love each other it is possible that neither of you feel that love really. Because it is being communicated in a language that does not readily translate into love for the receiver.

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Feeling Your Partner's Love Now!

You are being invited to introduce into your relationship the habit of filling each other's love tanks! Because when you are loving your partner is his/her love language, your partner feels very loved indeed. And when your partner is loving you in your love language your love tank is over flowing also. There is no doubt at all whether he or she loves you. 

When you engage your feminine wisdom in this way, the traditional patriarchal measure of the ultimate co-creation (having a baby) doesn't hold that huge weight anymore. Of course, you may still want to have a baby. But not as proof that you are loved.

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Co-Creating Together!

My sense here is that your feminine wisdom is asking you to support this foundational piece of your relationship first. Because this will have an impact on everything else in your life as a woman and couple. 

You are co-creating something gorgeous together. I invite you to consider that part of this co-creation is a journey with your partner that honours the love you have for each other.

One that allows you to discover each more. To understand each other at a deeper level. And one that facilitates love teeming in your relationship regardless of whether or not he wants a baby now!







Audio - Want My Partner To Want A Baby Too