Are you scared donor eggs will be successful at 50? Or fearful that your desire to have a baby will actually come true? It is great to know that pregnant woman over 50 'do pretty well' according to this study.
But, even if Naoimi Gryn decided to have her first baby at 51, the reality of having a real, live baby can be daunting. At any age.
In this audio and article below, I explore the issue of being 'scared donor eggs will be successful at 50' while engaging feminine wisdom. It was inspired by the following share from one of the wonderful women in our tribe.
"I'm going ahead with donor eggs Deirdre, but I'm scared that it will work out."
I see lots of feminine wisdom showing up in this share. The first part I would like to address is to remind you that it's absolutely okay for you to feel afraid. It might sound strange that you want something and are also feeling anxious that it will work out.
But the truth is that we carry these apparent contradictions within ourselves. Patriarchy finds this frustrating because it's not 'logical'. But, I'm inviting you now into Engaging the Feminine™ here. And to honour that there is feminine wisdom in this apparent contradiction.
That's the first step. Understanding that it is absolutely okay that you've been investing so much time, energy and money into trying to have a baby. And now you're scared that it will work out. I invite you to allow your feminine wisdom to embrace you in that. It is absolutely okay. It is not only okay, it is perfect!
Let's engage feminine wisdom here further. How do you do that? By deliberately reconnecting in with your truth. As it is now. Because your truth can change over time (something else that patriarchy finds hard to deal with).
What feels absolutely essential for you to pursue or invest your energy in can shift over time. That is not a flaw - although it has often been seen that way in patriarchy.
This is your beautiful, feminine wisdom navigating you into a gorgeous experience of womanhood for you. So tip 2 is to step back and ask yourself, "Okay, now, does it feel right for me to move forward with donor eggs?"
It doesn't matter if you've invested thousands and thousands, months and years. That was right for you then. What matters is "what is right for me now?".
The third aspect of feminine wisdom that you are being invited to consider is this. What do you need so you can feel comfortable and confident at the idea that this will work out? That you will have a baby.
Perhaps you need to have more support in your life. Or conversations around "well what's actually going to happen when we/I have the baby?" Are you being invited to make new connections with other moms-to-be or kindred spirit so that you do have an emotional support system there. Or maybe you are being called to look closer at the financial piece for example.
It feels important that you honestly explore what you need in order to feel comfortable and confident at the thought of donor eggs working out. Not what you think is possible or appropriate, but what would you love?
And be particularly aware of the parts of your response that would really make a big difference and allow you to feel excited about donor eggs working out. Because therein lies deep feminine guidance that will serve you hugely as a woman and mother.