Menopause And Sleep – Feminine Wisdom

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​​Menopause And Sleep  

​Menopause and sleep changes very often share the same bed. Accompanied by disturbances in slumber for about 61% of menopausal women, many are struggling with the impact of sleep deficit during 'the change'.​

​The reasons why menopause and sleep disturbances occur, we are told, is due to hormonal alterations that happen in a woman's body around this time. But that explanation, in my view, is incomplete as it springs from a male understanding of female fertility and what menopause means.  

In this audio and article below, I would like to share feminine wisdom on the connection between menopause and sleep so you can sleep better and feel great about what is happening in your amazing, female body! (This is worth reading even if menopause is way off in the future for you).

this audio comes about in response to a message I received from Chloe who was 45 and pregnant.

​Menopause And Sleep - The Context ​

​It is important, first, to understand the context in which we experience menopause and sleep issues. There are two especially strong themes at work here that influence this for us as women.

The first is that our patriarchal world is all about production and getting results. The actual journey, in this mindset, is of little value. Whether you are sleeping or not, the work must be done. And this pressure in the background causes us to resist changes in sleep. Because our ability to get accomplish things - in a pleasant way 🙂 - might be affected!

​The second theme is that, in patriarchy, a woman's value has been associated with her youth, the sexual pleasure she provides and her ability to reproduce. Therefore, whether it is said out loud or otherwise, menopause is seen to mark the demise of a woman's worth and creative potential. 

. I'd like to support you is just to share what I hear in that question. And what is happening. It sounds like it is that you're reviewing your history of many efforts and many attempts and the feeling of failure where you've tried and it hasn't working for tried and it hasn't worked. And this has been repeated over and over in different ways in your fertility journey in your motherhood journey. And so I'd just like to remind you here that this kind of approach or interpretation of our fertility journey is very much a patriarca one in which success is only seen in terms of the outcome, the project the baby. And you were being invited to engage your feminine wisdom here because that's history his story the patriarchal interpretation and is time for her story, your story the feminine version of what has unfolded for you over the last year to show up here now because if you reflect back on all this journey you will see clearly how each of those experiences have helped you to show-up more authentically to discern Who you really want to be in the world and have added to your empowerment to your sense of serve to your sense of integrity to your confidence and to your allowing yourself to be you instead of having to do this in a particular way at a particular time. This journey has made you step up and say you know I want it now even if the circumstances aren't perfect according to the patriarchal download.

​​​The Outcome ​

So during menopause, not only do we need to adjust to changes within our bodies, we also need to come to terms with the significance of this milestone in a male dominated world. Because female fertility has only been seen through masculine eyes.

​When we are not getting the quality of sleep that we need, these changes will be much more difficult to process. Giving rise, at times, to increased stress, depression and a sense of under-acheivement.

Which provides perfect proof that the patriarchal ideas about a woman's value at this time are indeed accurate. With the result that many of us are left feeling angry or disappointed in the female body and have this to deal with on top of everything else.

Feminine Wisdom

​But contrary to what we have been taught, menopause is a gateway into tremendous feminine power. When we are engaging our feminine wisdom on the journey that is.​

Although this post is on menpause and sleep, I would like to share what has been going in my own sleep rhythm as I think there is value in it for you.

​​This year (my 47th), my sleep pattern began to change. I found myself fully alert in the middle of the night. Every night. ​

​I am not assuming that it is connected to menopause. Indeed, that never crossed my mind until I was writing this article! 

But I know that sleep and the nocturnal cycle is connected to the deep womb of feminine wisdom so when this started to happen, I knew that I wanted to work with it.

And each of those experiences those baby's those attempts have added to you as a woman even if that's not obvious to the medical model or to patriarchy. And so I'd really be inviting you to really connect with your story in a new way and forget the patriarchal history so that you can write your own story and that links to the form stage of my feminine engagement method. But you are really being invited here now to switch that mantra in your head about failure and last in two one hour gain and empowerment and I'd actually be asking you to go through each of those parent classes and of course many of them will have been difficult and painful.

​In the hours of darkness and quiet, it is much easier to hear the gentle whisper of feminine wisdom and her guidance on what really matters in our lives. That is how she communicates.... to begin with.

​Most commonly, however, we don't listen to that female voice​. Until she has no option but to scream (e.g. with an illness or accident)  in order to get what she needs. Like rest and retreat time to reflect honestly on our lives.

My Experience

​I used to be up at 5.30 am because I needed quiet time for me before I could step into the Mama role. Happily!

​Making that decision a couple of years ago improved my life, and that of everyone else in the house, enormously! Because, it gave me the time I need to think, process and feel my way in this world.

But in the last year, in response to the changes I mentioned above, I decided to experiment.... Here's what my sleep rhythm looks like now!

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    I'm up at 4am every morning
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    ​I am in bed around the same time as my kids!.
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    I take a short siesta during the day.

​And I am totally LOVING it! I have never felt so happy and content with my life. Nor have I ever been able to perceive, before, this level of feminine clarity. But now I can. And I am listening. And the more I engage with my feminine wisdom in this manner, the easier my life flows in every way.

​Menopause And Sleep Conclusions

​The dance between menopause and sleep is a very personal invitation from feminine wisdom - beckoning you to take a Retreat from Patriarchy​​™. 

​Every night and every day.

And, instead of accepting the patriarchal interpretation of what it means to be a woman at this stage of life, believe in your feminine. Enter into a conversation with your own rhythm and cycle. Because your feminine wisdom has treasures for you that will help you realise your deepest desires in the most efficient, sustainable way. If you open up to listening.

So I invite you to experiment with sleep and share below your experience. (Please listen also to the audio below as it is quite different from the text!)

​Menopause And Sleep - Audio

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