How To Be A Confident Pregnant Woman – After So Much History

How To Be A Confident Pregnant Woman

​How To Be A Confident Pregnant Woman   


​Are you wondering how to be a confident pregnant woman? Especially after so much fertility history. Or infertility history as we have been programmed to view it. 

​This audio and post came about in response to a message I received from Chloe who is 45 and pregnant. Here is what she had to share:

this audio comes about in response to a message I received from Chloe who was 45 and pregnant.

Deirdre, how do we deal with pregnancy after so much history? I fear I don't have the tools to be a confident pregnant woman.

Deirdre, how do we deal with pregnancy after so much history? I fear I don't have the tools to be a confident pregnant woman.

How To Be A Confident Pregnant Woman
​After ​So Much History...


​The way I would like to support you Chloe - around how to be a confident pregnant woman - is to share what I hear in your question.

​It sounds like you are looking back and viewing a history of fertility stress, huge effort, and, perhaps, many attempts to have a baby. It might include miscarriage grief or other baby loss. You have tried but it hasn't worked out. And this, it seems, has been repeated in different ways through-out your motherhood journey.

​So I would just like to remind you here that this kind of relationship with your fertility journey is a patriarchal one in which success is only seen in terms of the product. The baby or live-birth in this case. So from that mindset, your journey may well be seen as one of failure.... until now. And with this trailing behind you it is difficult to be confident.

​However, that is a mindset and understanding of the creative process that has no clue about the role of the feminine beyond egg and womb. But, as I found myself, remaining in these patriarchal stories can leave your feminine confidence in shreds.

And you are being invited to engage your feminine wisdom here because that's history. His story. The patriarchal perspective on female fertility and her creative contribution.

. I'd like to support you is just to share what I hear in that question. And what is happening. It sounds like it is that you're reviewing your history of many efforts and many attempts and the feeling of failure where you've tried and it hasn't working for tried and it hasn't worked. And this has been repeated over and over in different ways in your fertility journey in your motherhood journey. And so I'd just like to remind you here that this kind of approach or interpretation of our fertility journey is very much a patriarca one in which success is only seen in terms of the outcome, the project the baby. And you were being invited to engage your feminine wisdom here because that's history his story the patriarchal interpretation and is time for her story, your story the feminine version of what has unfolded for you over the last year to show up here now because if you reflect back on all this journey you will see clearly how each of those experiences have helped you to show-up more authentically to discern Who you really want to be in the world and have added to your empowerment to your sense of serve to your sense of integrity to your confidence and to your allowing yourself to be you instead of having to do this in a particular way at a particular time. This journey has made you step up and say you know I want it now even if the circumstances aren't perfect according to the patriarchal download.

​​​Time For Her Story!


​And your feminine wisdom is wanting you to articulate instead Her Story. Your story. A feminine version of what has unfolded for you over the last years. Because if you reflect back on your journey, you will see how each of those experiences have helped you to:

  • ​Discover Your Own Truth
  • Show Up More Authentically
  • Free Yourself From Other People's Ideas Of What Is Right For You

​Each of them, in other words, has enriched you in some way as a woman. Even if that's not obvious in our patriarchal world. And I am inviting you to connect with your story in a way that honours that.  

​It's not about denying the pain, loss and challenges. It's about making room to connect with the gifts and transformation also.


​How To Be A Confident Pregnant Woman!


So play around with the following ideas and thoughts for example and see if they feel better. Because if they do, your feminine wisdom is guiding you to include them in your story now. (I recommend listening to the audio below too).

I know how to be a confident pregnant woman! And​ some of the the reasons I know how to be a confident pregnant woman are because:

  • ​I have had so many experiences with my fertility that have taught me so much
  • ​I understand my feminine wisdom at a much deeper level
  • I have let go of people and ideas that do not serve me as a mother
  • ​I am surrounding myself with people and ideas that really support and nourish me
  • ​My baby wants this too and now is the time!

You are a different person now Chloe.

Not less than the woman who started out this journey - although patriarchy might tell you otherwise. You are infinitely more. Remembering that is part of how to be a confident pregnant woman! (See also my article on preventing preeclampsia as there is wisdom there for you also).

Soon you will be wondering how to be a confident mom! In the mean time enjoy this special time with your baby...

And each of those experiences those baby's those attempts have added to you as a woman even if that's not obvious to the medical model or to patriarchy. And so I'd really be inviting you to really connect with your story in a new way and forget the patriarchal history so that you can write your own story and that links to the form stage of my feminine engagement method. But you are really being invited here now to switch that mantra in your head about failure and last in two one hour gain and empowerment and I'd actually be asking you to go through each of those parent classes and of course many of them will have been difficult and painful.
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