Fertility In Patriarchy – Examples In Developed Countries

fertility in patriarchy

Female ​Fertility In Patriarchy   


The experience of fertility in patriarchy is interesting and simple. Although the effect of patriarchy may be more obvious in developing countries, it greedily wraps itself around the collective female body. All over the planet.

As women, we learn about our fertility, sexuality and existence through the eyes of the masculine - whether that happens in the back of a car or a biology lesson. We come to believe, in part at least, that the patriarchal ideas and expectations about us are accurate, appropriate and morally right.

​As children, we are subtly trained ​into giving power to patriarchy​ so we don't feel it as a shock when we enter womanhood. But sometimes, the patriarchal bellows bawl in a way that makes no bones about the fact that the function of female fertility in patriarchy is to continue the status quo.

this audio comes about in response to a message I received from Chloe who was 45 and pregnant.

​Fertility In Patriarchy


​​In a previous article, I explored how patriarchal language affects fertility​ and have also offered feminine advice to Meghan Markle trying for a baby with Prince Harry. (Because even if a woman can be queen in the United Kingdom, Meghan's motherhood journey still unfolds in a modern version of a patriarchal institution).

​This audio and article below, however, came about in response to an article I read in the Business Insider sharing ​how different countries are trying to increase fertility rates. The following is an extract: ​

. I'd like to support you is just to share what I hear in that question. And what is happening. It sounds like it is that you're reviewing your history of many efforts and many attempts and the feeling of failure where you've tried and it hasn't working for tried and it hasn't worked. And this has been repeated over and over in different ways in your fertility journey in your motherhood journey. And so I'd just like to remind you here that this kind of approach or interpretation of our fertility journey is very much a patriarca one in which success is only seen in terms of the outcome, the project the baby. And you were being invited to engage your feminine wisdom here because that's history his story the patriarchal interpretation and is time for her story, your story the feminine version of what has unfolded for you over the last year to show up here now because if you reflect back on all this journey you will see clearly how each of those experiences have helped you to show-up more authentically to discern Who you really want to be in the world and have added to your empowerment to your sense of serve to your sense of integrity to your confidence and to your allowing yourself to be you instead of having to do this in a particular way at a particular time. This journey has made you step up and say you know I want it now even if the circumstances aren't perfect according to the patriarchal download.

"There are few things more important than fertility in determining a nation's future viability.

Demographers suggest that a country needs a fertility rate of just over two children per woman to hit "replacement fertility" — the rate at which new births fill the spaces left behind by deaths"... ​(by Chris Weller)​

Deirdre, how do we deal with pregnancy after so much history? I fear I don't have the tools to be a confident pregnant woman.

​Pr​essure To Perform!


​Allow me to share samples of what encouraging fertility in patriarchy looks like. ​Italy has given birth to a Fertility Day (September 22nd), for example, because birth rates have dropped significantly there in the last few years. Official advertisements include messages such as:

D​ON'T LET YOUR SPERM GO UP IN SMOKE!

The people of Denmark were encouraged to procreate with the following words:

​DO IT FOR DENMARK!

​And just in case, we are left in any doubt about the experience of female fertility in patriarchy, I leave you with this gem. In 2012 Singapore, which has experienced extremely low birth rates, invited its population to ​expand with these words:

​LET YOUR PATRIOTISM EXPLODE!

​Taking it a step further perhaps, one sperm bank in Bejing requires prospective donors to swear loyalty to the Communist Party.

"(The donors must) love the socialist motherland and embrace the leadership of the Communist Party," April, 2018).


Female Fertility


​A few things come up for me when I read these.  (FYI, I have not researched the exact translation of these ads and am trusting the source of this article). The first is that much of the messaging seems to be aimed more at men with the clear implication that having sex is good for the country. It's a positive contribution from which the entire nation can benefit.

Sure enough sex and parenthood can be wonderful things. But promoting the idea that sex is a positive contribution for a man as a national truth is a dangerous thing. Why so?

​Because in doing that we exclude, yet again, the feminine from the creative process by ignoring her desires, her own vision and her very personal rhythm.

This kind of messaging, whether deliberate or not, reinforces the right that the masculine has to a woman's body. It condones, in ways, putting pressure on women to have sex. And at the very least, it is a powerful reminder of the purpose of female fertility in patriarchy. That is: to maintain things as they are so that the patriarchal line and ideas perpetuate.


​Your Feminine Wisdom


​For me, these advertisements and the intentions behind them demonstrate the wider context and reality of female fertility in patriarchy. Women's creative energy has been directed almost entirely into what serves the male-dominant status quo. ​

​Encouraging women to have at least two children​ ensures that women are tied up in their patriarchal duties of child rearing. Unless resourced adequately, it prevents us from having the time to engage our feminine wisdom, reflect on how we really feel and discern what we truly want. For ourselves and our children. So things continue as they have been and our hopes and dreams remain on the back burner.

​How can we change this? By Engaging the Feminine® in our fertility even if father government (and the wider society) is encouraging us in another direction. Even if he has decided already on what your most valuable contribution could be. ​Because, although he doesn't understand it yet, there is huge evolutionary value in your deepest desires.


​Your Creative Feminine


​To have a goal of maintaining the status quo is a reflection of arrested creative development. ​But it's familiar territory in patriarchy - in which the feminine has been excluded from the creative process.​

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​Female fertility in patriarchy has been all about producing and this has worked really well to achieve patriarchal goals.

It's time for a change now though. So that female fertility belongs to women. ​Together we can create an experience of fertility and in patriarchy (and beyond) that honours us as women. One that honours our children and the beautiful men in our lives too.

I'm inviting you to add your creative feminine to this movement by joining the discussion and commenting below. Because your contribution here really, really matters!

And each of those experiences those baby's those attempts have added to you as a woman even if that's not obvious to the medical model or to patriarchy. And so I'd really be inviting you to really connect with your story in a new way and forget the patriarchal history so that you can write your own story and that links to the form stage of my feminine engagement method. But you are really being invited here now to switch that mantra in your head about failure and last in two one hour gain and empowerment and I'd actually be asking you to go through each of those parent classes and of course many of them will have been difficult and painful.

​​Fertility In Patriarchy - Audio

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