Creating Healthy Follicles – Feminine Wisdom

creating healthy follicles

​Creating ​Healthy Follicles  

​Thoughts around creating healthy follicles and eggs ​often tag along on the fertility journey. Especially if you resonate with the theme: 'want a baby but feeling old​'.

This post was inspired by an article ​addressing technological developments in fertility​. ​It shared that ​creating viable eggs- mice eggs- has been achieved successfully in the laboratory. Giving rise to live births.

That in itself is worthy of a post but what actually interested me most about the article was the description of the follicle it shared.....

​​What Is A Follicle?

Because although I may have read these exact words elsewhere, this time it altered my perception of our fabulous follicular friends. (Just as a reminder, the follicle is a fluid-filled sac that contains an immature egg).

Here is how the author, Ellie Kinsaid, put it...

this audio comes about in response to a message I received from Chloe who was 45 and pregnant.

​...."the cells that can become eggs are surrounded with other cells that take care of them and help them to grow....

​The whole complex is called a follicle." 

Deirdre, how do we deal with pregnancy after so much history? I fear I don't have the tools to be a confident pregnant woman.

​Upon reading this the third time, the howl of feminine wisdom became a din in my ear as it dawned on me that ​the follicle refers to the support system as well as the egg.

. I'd like to support you is just to share what I hear in that question. And what is happening. It sounds like it is that you're reviewing your history of many efforts and many attempts and the feeling of failure where you've tried and it hasn't working for tried and it hasn't worked. And this has been repeated over and over in different ways in your fertility journey in your motherhood journey. And so I'd just like to remind you here that this kind of approach or interpretation of our fertility journey is very much a patriarca one in which success is only seen in terms of the outcome, the project the baby. And you were being invited to engage your feminine wisdom here because that's history his story the patriarchal interpretation and is time for her story, your story the feminine version of what has unfolded for you over the last year to show up here now because if you reflect back on all this journey you will see clearly how each of those experiences have helped you to show-up more authentically to discern Who you really want to be in the world and have added to your empowerment to your sense of serve to your sense of integrity to your confidence and to your allowing yourself to be you instead of having to do this in a particular way at a particular time. This journey has made you step up and say you know I want it now even if the circumstances aren't perfect according to the patriarchal download.

Feminine Wisdom

​Let me put that another just to make sure we are on the same feminine page here - on the issue of creating healthy follicles at least.

Without an appropriate feminine support system, there will not be an egg. There cannot be an egg.  In the absence of genuine support, in other words, your creative feminine simply cannot produce the most fundamental feminine ingredient needed to have a baby.

​That, in my view, is a crystal clear message from feminine wisdom. And, as I discovered on my own fertility journey, it is true also on an emotional level.

While it might be more obvious later in motherhood - when your baby has arrived - feminine wisdom is lowing here that appropriate feminine support not only breaths fire into your creativity and motherhood. It is an intrisic part of your creative feminine.

Creating Healthy Follicles In Patriarchy

​And it came to me that, in our patriarchal world, the systems that have been considered supportive have not actually felt safe for many of us.

Or maybe we feel secure on a physical level. But vulnerable emotionally. Afraid of expressing our truth, daring to be different or flourishing as women.  

​Often the feminine support with which we have spent most of our time has been caring primarily about maintaining the patriarchal status quo. And has encouraged only growth in directions that patriarchy has decided are appropriate for us as women. And for you according to your position in the clan (whatever clan that might be).

It's not personal - just part of the download. But it's huge nonetheless. Especially ​if you want to have a baby after 48 or 55. Because that is pushing the patriarchal envelop a bit far still - socially at least.

​Real Feminine Support

​But it's time to set fire to a few patriarchal myths that have restricted us in receiving this feminine fuel for creating healthy follicles. ​Let's begin with the following:

The fact that a woman is your mother, sister, aunt, cousin, neighbour, a part of your class or clan does not mean that she truly cares necessarily. And it certainly does not follow that she wants you to grow and thrive. There may well be love and care there of course.​

But time and time again, I have assumed that ​this woman would want the best for me because we are related for example. Or we have some shared history. And I was wrong. It can happen for sure and often does. But we have been led to expect this from family when it is, in fact, a myth.

​Patriarchy, however, wants us to maintain these relationships anyway because it's the patriarchal family that matters. Not what feels like family to you.

The Experience Of Women

​In my view, fertility facts ​about egg reserves running out​, for example, or eggs running out in general are reflecting something much deeper about the experience of being a woman in the world.

​So many of us have been depleted by patriarchal 'support' systems that want us to stay small. And we are tangled up in emotional environments in which creating healthy follicles is simply impossible.

​Especially after 45. Instead, they ensure ​that the 'fertility energy being drained' experience continues. And lead us to conclude,  eventually, that it must be false hope in fertility after 50.

After which the patriarchal "I told you so" is ushered in. Because it's not okay ​to desire what you desire, to challenge limits that have been placed on women for generations. Or to reclaim female fertility for ourselves as women.

​Creating Healthy Follicles - Next Steps

​But you have the power to leverage this feminine wisdom in your fertility now. You can start by giving yourself permission to really look at your relationships and ask yourself the following:

  • ​Who am I allowing to drain my energy because they are 'family'?
  • Is creating healthy follicles really more important to me as a woman than continuing in this way with them?
  • ​Who supports my fertility dreams even if they are not 'conventional'?

​Be present with what comes up for you with these questions because it matters. In my experience, we underestimate enormously the negative impact of relationships that pour water on our creative feminine fire.

If you are not sure how to bring more nourishing feminine relationships into your life, then begin by participating more here in our community. Share your opinion. Ask questions. Respond to others and be the 'helper' cell for other women daring to Engage the Feminine® in female fertility after 40, 50 and well, well beyond!

Audio - Creating Healthy Follicles
And each of those experiences those baby's those attempts have added to you as a woman even if that's not obvious to the medical model or to patriarchy. And so I'd really be inviting you to really connect with your story in a new way and forget the patriarchal history so that you can write your own story and that links to the form stage of my feminine engagement method. But you are really being invited here now to switch that mantra in your head about failure and last in two one hour gain and empowerment and I'd actually be asking you to go through each of those parent classes and of course many of them will have been difficult and painful.

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