If you haven't experienced fertility challenges, coping with infertility may sound easy. The reality is that it can be a grueling dance. Especially after 40.
And because our patriarchal, male world doesn't yet understand the role of feelings in the creative process, one of the most common ways of coping is to pretend infertility is ok. Which, apart from being utterly exhausting, can be very lonely and cause your fertility energy to be drained even further.
Coping with infertility during the holidays is a topic of its own (I mention this because it is holiday time as I write). And there are certain moments on the journey that can be particularly challenging. Like how to cope with everyone else getting pregnant.
I have to be honest here. Coping with infertility - or coping with secondary infertility - is not really my interest. There is merit for sure in coping with infertility and I have needed this kind of help myself.
But hidden within the goal of 'coping with infertility' are some inaccurate assumptions about a woman's role, value and creative powerlessness in the world.
We have been trained to accept and cope with the patriarchal version of life, the feminine and the creative process. Even if it is flawed and false. With the result that so many of us are mere shadows of our true feminine potential.
My job is to educate -which means to draw out - about the creative feminine so you can understand and leverage your creative feminine power. To transform infertility to motherhood if that is your truth. And live the life that you truly desire - as opposed to the one women have been taught to settle with.
That's why it felt so important to bring you this audio and article below. Because it goes beyond coping with infertility to help you live the life you love. Now.
It was inspired by Doerte's discovery. Here is what she shared in her message to me:
Dear Deirdre, thank you for your post. I received a lot of value...
In your post 'Don't Want Donor Eggs', you wrote about doing something you always wanted to do. I have been singing in a choir for three months!
Our choir will be giving a concert tomorrow evening. We will be singing taize music which is so full of hope and trust and joy. Can you imagine?
I never thought this would be of interest to me. It is a challenge and very rewarding and so much joy. And it also takes my mind off supporting fertility in a negative work environment .
I was so delighted to read this message. Because for me, it is a wonderful example of moving from a life of coping with infertility (or anything else as a woman) to creating joy and fulfillment right now.
But there is a lot more of your creative feminine wisdom showing up in this apparently simple change. In the audio below, I have highlighted the three most important developments I observe for you Doerte.
And I invite you to press play and listen to it a few times. Because there is important guidance within - that can support your fertility and creative feminine even more... and my sense is that you are ready to hear that now!
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