Coping With Infertility During The Holidays
Have you struggled around coping with infertility during the holidays? I have. And it can be horrible as you probably know. In part because there is so much emphasis on family. Plus the expectation that you must spend time with them!
They are occasions when you can see your own fertility doubts mirrored in others (especially in fertility after 40). By what they say or don't say. Not to mention having to learn how to cope with everyone else getting pregnant - as other women in the clan seem to be churning babies out.
There's also the pressure to pretend infertility is ok and contain all those negative infertility emotions (even if you feel like a meltdown). With the result that holiday time can be excruciating.
Coping With Infertility During The Holidays -
As a result of the pressure to play happy families many of us end up actually hurting our fertility during the holidays. In other words, we unwittingly work against our Creative Feminine®. I know I did.
And while you can find many sound tips for dealing with holidays elsewhere, this video below comes from my own personal experience. In it I share changes I had to make to support me as a woman and a mother.
In a way I was at an advantage that I couldn't understand or speak Spanish very well. (I had recently moved to Spain to be with my partner). Sometimes ignorance is bliss!
And while the "drastic" action I took happened after I had my girls, in hindsight it would have supported my fertility hugely if I had made this decision a few years earlier. So if this holiday time is bringing up the feeling of time running out to have a baby or making you 'afraid I can't have a baby at my age', I invite you to watch this.
There is feminine wisdom that can help you to transform infertility to motherhood so that holiday time can actually be a warm embrace around you! Because that is how I experience it now.