After Embryo Transfer – 3 Tips For Your Success

after embryo transfer

After Embryo Transfer   

​Can you increase your chances of a successful pregnancy after embryo transfer? Of course you can! ​I have published on the topic of preparing for embryo transfer in a previous post, and invite you to listen to th​at audio. Even if you have already gone through the ivf process (embryo transfer procedure because there are ideas there that can nourish you now.

​But with regard to supporting yourself after embryo transfer, it was Mamie's message that prompted this. In the last few days she had two gorgeous embryos transferred into her beautiful womb! And here's what she wrote:

After Embryo Transfer - 
Mamie's Experience

​Dear Deirdre, I need to share, because it got very difficult during the night. I had to grasp for air ...and was scared I might lie on my belly and kill the embryos.

 I usually sleep on my belly so it was difficult to get much-needed sleep and rest. And I find myself worrying too much today, do I sit, do I lie down, do I walk? The doctor wasn’t too specific, he just said to stay in the house and rest and be calm.

I must have read 10 different sites about it. Is lying down detrimental, or is standing too long bad? I just lost the sweet, optimistic feeling of yesterday. Lack of sleep always makes me feel weird.


I think it is the feeling that maybe I am not doing my best for them that worries me the most. I wish I knew what best is. Or do I just have to trust myself and let the rest take its course. I feel that might be the solution...

Dear Deirdre,
I need to share, because it got very difficult during the night. I had to grasp for air and shouted in my sleep, and was scared I might lie on my belly and kill the embryos. I usually sleep on my belly so it was difficult to get much-needed sleep and rest. And I find myself worrying too much today, do I sit, do I lie down, do I walk? The doctor wasn’t too specific, he just said to stay in the house and rest and be calm. I must have read 10 different sites about it. Is lying down detrimental, or is standing too long bad? I just last the sweet, optimistic feeling of yesterday. Lack of sleep always makes me feel weird. I think it is the feeling that maybe I am not doing my best for them that worries me the most. I wish I knew what best is. Or do I just have to trust myself and let the rest take its course. I feel that might be the solution.

this audio is inspired by share I received from Mamie who in the last few days had 2 gorgeous embryos transferred into her beautiful womb. Here’s what she wrote:

Tip 1 - After Embryo Transfer 

​So the first tip ​relates to searching so many sites for the answers to your questions.​ And pouring your energy into trying to figure out what you should do.

Because when you find yourself in your head, in that mental space, your masculine energy is in charge. It's totally understandable that you would do this because, in our patriarchal world, we have been taught that our answers are outside of ourselves. And while valuable for sure, when you are just after embryo transfer, that external searching can ​amplify fertility doubts​. And lead you into feeling overwhelmed by fertility and this part of you journey.

​​It is your feminine essence that you want to tune into here​. To embrace your babies and facilitate successful implantation and pregnancy. So instead of frantically scouring the internet, tip 1 is to go within ​so that you can hear your own feminine wisdom. Because she is ​helping you to navigate through this time in the best way for you and for your babies. ​

​I love - at the end of your message- your conclusion that you need to trust yourself. Because when you do this, you are engaging your feminine wisdom again. And that ​feels so much better. 

No longer are you a helpless woman who must discover from out there the 'right' thing to do. Instead, you return to your power - moving from your own centre - allowing this to be a beautiful step into your motherhood.

Tip 2 - After Embryo Transfer 

​The second tip that your feminine wisdom is whispering through your share ​relates to sleep. (I have explored ​sleep and infertility​ elsewhere).​ Sleep is your mechanism for recharging and replenishing. It is intimately connected to your creative feminine ​ and is essential for you as a woman and a mother.

​Tip 2 is to prioritise ​quality sleep during this time. And when you are lying on your belly - if that’s what allows you to get the sleep you need - imagine that your babies are enjoying a cozy cushioning.

Not only by your warm, safe feminine body which is inviting out the very best of your babies. But also, there is the further cushioning ​of your comfort, peace and restfulness.

Because ​sleep makes you feel weird. But, when you do get your feminine sleep, you are resourceful and confident.​ And this gives your babies the emotional space to be able to focus on their next steps too!

Tip 3 - After Embryo Transfer 

The third tip relates to sharing Mamie. As you observed yourself, you do need to share.  So many emotions and thoughts can whirl around during this time. And take you off track. But the process of sharing helps you to access your own feminine wisdom. (Your share above is a great example!)

​You are laying the foundations of how motherhood will be for you. ​​So tip 3 is to continue to  share authentically in a way that supports your creative feminine. (As you probably well know, not all sharing can be empowering because of how others respond etc.).

It may be as simple as taking the time to record in your journal what is coming up for you. But you might also be seeking feminine companionship and wisdom to support your motherhood. Or wanting, at a deeper level, to learn how to show up with your thoughts and feelings so that you can leverage your emotional wisdom. Which is a core part of your creative feminine.

​I invite you to consider joining our Engaging the Feminine® Community. It's currently in beta mode, but I will be opening it up for a few days (while still in beta) ​so you will have an opportunity to benefit from an early bird offer. In the meantime, I invite you to plan what lovely stories - you will be telling your children in years to come - about this very day!

The third piece is of sharing, Mamie you do need to share, there is so many emotions going on, and so I invite you to share that in our Engaging the Feminine Community, our fem forum and a special place for that called my Emotional Wisdom where you can really ease out these emotions, these thoughts all that are swirling in your head in a way that allows you to reconnect with your deep feminine wisdom, feel good on your journey, discern the very best steps for you and feel the love and support of feminine space that really wants the best for you. I would love to have had this advice when I first became a mom. And let’s celebrate that you’re calling in this wisdom and support at this point. Thank you so much for your share. I’ll look forward to connecting with you in our Engaging the Feminine Community in ways that serve you deeply now.
Now the second piece that I would like to comment on is the whole sleep idea and your sleep is where your feminine is replenished, its where she can show up fully. It’s part of that recharging mechanism that you absolutely need as a woman and a mother. And I am inviting you to prioritize that. And when you’re lying on your belly, if that’s what allows you to get the sleep that you need, imagine that your babies are cushioned, not only by the beautiful space of your womb and your warm body, your warm feminine body inviting out the very best of your babies. But also, there is a further cushioning around them of your comfort, of your peace, of your restfulness. Because as you say yourself, lack of sleep makes you feel weird, you’re offset, you cannot function with this, I can totally relate. But, when you do get that sleep you need, you are resourceful, you can discern what’s the best next step, things flow much easier so you can allow that to cushion your babies and that your comfort is a huge gift to them.
So, Mamie, there is so much feminine wisdom in your share. And the first piece I like to comment on is just the part where you’re visiting so many sites, asking so many questions. Trying to figure out, what you should do, and when we’re in that space, we’re in a very masculine space. We’re looking outside of ourselves for answers. And that can really add to you feeling anxious and overwhelmed. So, I love when at the end of your message that you say that maybe I need to trust myself and for me that’s just a shift between trying to look outside for an answer. Being in your masculine energy in the patriarchal download and returning into your own center. So, with that shift, you’re beginning to engage your feminine wisdom and I would be encouraging that for sure.

Audio: After Embryo Transfer 



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