Can you increase your chances of a successful pregnancy after embryo transfer? Of course you can! I have published on the topic of preparing for embryo transfer in a previous post, and invite you to listen to that audio. Even if you have already gone through the ivf process (embryo transfer procedure because there are ideas there that can nourish you now.
But with regard to supporting yourself after embryo transfer, it was Mamie's message that prompted this. In the last few days she had two gorgeous embryos transferred into her beautiful womb! And here's what she wrote:
Dear Deirdre, I need to share, because it got very difficult during the night. I had to grasp for air ...and was scared I might lie on my belly and kill the embryos.
I usually sleep on my belly so it was difficult to get much-needed sleep and rest. And I find myself worrying too much today, do I sit, do I lie down, do I walk? The doctor wasn’t too specific, he just said to stay in the house and rest and be calm.
I must have read 10 different sites about it. Is lying down detrimental, or is standing too long bad? I just lost the sweet, optimistic feeling of yesterday. Lack of sleep always makes me feel weird.
I think it is the feeling that maybe I am not doing my best for them that worries me the most. I wish I knew what best is. Or do I just have to trust myself and let the rest take its course. I feel that might be the solution...
So the first tip relates to searching so many sites for the answers to your questions. And pouring your energy into trying to figure out what you should do.
Because when you find yourself in your head, in that mental space, your masculine energy is in charge. It's totally understandable that you would do this because, in our patriarchal world, we have been taught that our answers are outside of ourselves. And while valuable for sure, when you are just after embryo transfer, that external searching can amplify fertility doubts. And lead you into feeling overwhelmed by fertility and this part of you journey.
It is your feminine essence that you want to tune into here. To embrace your babies and facilitate successful implantation and pregnancy. So instead of frantically scouring the internet, tip 1 is to go within so that you can hear your own feminine wisdom. Because she is helping you to navigate through this time in the best way for you and for your babies.
I love - at the end of your message- your conclusion that you need to trust yourself. Because when you do this, you are engaging your feminine wisdom again. And that feels so much better.
No longer are you a helpless woman who must discover from out there the 'right' thing to do. Instead, you return to your power - moving from your own centre - allowing this to be a beautiful step into your motherhood.
The second tip that your feminine wisdom is whispering through your share relates to sleep. (I have explored sleep and infertility elsewhere). Sleep is your mechanism for recharging and replenishing. It is intimately connected to your creative feminine and is essential for you as a woman and a mother.
Tip 2 is to prioritise quality sleep during this time. And when you are lying on your belly - if that’s what allows you to get the sleep you need - imagine that your babies are enjoying a cozy cushioning.
Not only by your warm, safe feminine body which is inviting out the very best of your babies. But also, there is the further cushioning of your comfort, peace and restfulness.
Because sleep makes you feel weird. But, when you do get your feminine sleep, you are resourceful and confident. And this gives your babies the emotional space to be able to focus on their next steps too!
The third tip relates to sharing Mamie. As you observed yourself, you do need to share. So many emotions and thoughts can whirl around during this time. And take you off track. But the process of sharing helps you to access your own feminine wisdom. (Your share above is a great example!)
You are laying the foundations of how motherhood will be for you. So tip 3 is to continue to share authentically in a way that supports your creative feminine. (As you probably well know, not all sharing can be empowering because of how others respond etc.).
It may be as simple as taking the time to record in your journal what is coming up for you. But you might also be seeking feminine companionship and wisdom to support your motherhood. Or wanting, at a deeper level, to learn how to show up with your thoughts and feelings so that you can leverage your emotional wisdom. Which is a core part of your creative feminine.
I invite you to consider joining our Engaging the Feminine® Community. It's currently in beta mode, but I will be opening it up for a few days (while still in beta) so you will have an opportunity to benefit from an early bird offer. In the meantime, I invite you to plan what lovely stories - you will be telling your children in years to come - about this very day!